Steven: A True Story of Overcoming Social Anxiety, Gaming Addiction & Losing 100 lbs
[blockquote author=”” ] I continued to pack on the pounds that took me over a decade to lose. My struggle with my weight over the course of those 10 years took me from a happy, energetic and gifted child to to a depressed and isolated video game addict. It wasn’t until a near death experience that I forced myself to focus on healing my body.[/blockquote] We invite you to meet Steven and hear his inspiring story of how he overcame. Steven shares his story on his blog site to help inspire, lead and educate others into healthier lifestyles.
When Steven was 21, he tripped and fell onto a subway rail where he was electrocuted for nearly 8 minutes. His doctor’s said he was a miracle as it was a situation no one should have survived. After recovering from his injuries, Steven realized he had problems he needed to face head on. He started to address the root issues and put himself on a path that led to a happy and healthy life.
Losing the weight was the easy part, it was learning to be social and confident in who he was that was a more difficult struggle to overcome. The self-deprecation and poor self-image continued for a few years until he removed the root issues completely and continued to not give up.
[blockquote author=”” align=”right”] The struggles and pain you go through when you are that over weight… how plain and simple your body makes you not want to be social…it’s hard to overcome.[/blockquote]
Below is a very short summary of the interview >>
Was your self-awakening immediate and what steps did you take?
I remember being in a lot of pain. It took about six months after I left the hospital for me to build the steam to push through. But I knew immediately that something was wrong and I had to fix it. I just didn’t think it was my weight. I never imagined myself of being capable of being lean, healthy or athletic. I never thought of it as being possible or a reality. I think it is a common theme for people who are overweight as children. We think the reality is we have to be obese. It’s very depressing. But, it took me between six months to a year to realize that was the main point of my anxiety.
If someone is ready to pinpoint what the issue is with weight, where should they start?
Weight is a complicated issue for a lot of people. One of the most common things is stress and how you deal with it. Stress from family, stress from taking care of someone, stress from what you eat (allergies, sensitivities), dealing with long term stress like a job…you are telling your body there is a famine going on and we need to protect and shut down. Look for your stresses first. What is dragging you down?
Concentrate on not beating yourself up on why you don’t want to exercise, why you don’t want to get healthy. I would concentrate on your root causes and do a self-discovery of your why. Once you find them, the weight can literally drop off. The one decision for me to eliminate gaming forced me to find normal social interaction. My weight and perception of myself, never feeling attractive, I never understood it because I didn’t recognize the guy looking back in the mirror. I kept making self-deprecating jokes and people just looked at me weird. I made jokes about the food I ate or about being big – It took a few years to recognize the guy in the mirror.
What was the switch in finding your confidence?
It came in stages through a couple of big events. With work and being hired to run companies, there was a trust there. I also began to compete in Martial Arts which gave me a lot of confidence. And, dating. Dating success was really big. I had felt so ashamed of my body for so long that opening myself up to someone was really hard. When I met my girlfriend, four years after my accident, I finally opened up and accepted myself for who I was and the inner dialouge changed to, “I am someone. I am valued. I bring a lot to the table. I’m a fantastic person to be with for more reasons than one.” It came from more than the self-talk but from new life skills too.
The Land of Plenty – YOU are a land of plenty. “You’re diet should communicate to you that you are a land of plenty.”
Don’t miss the end of the interview where Steven speaks directly to mothers with sons who have gaming addictions.
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